'She said she is pretty sure that I’m not the father': Pregnant mom abandons husband and kids, her parents still try to defend her

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Nov 16, 2022 4:00 PM EST

This guy's in-laws need to face reality. Their daughter not only is pregnant with an affair baby, but she also admitted to her husband that their 13-year-old daughter is likely not his kid. Now, she's moved in with her new boyfriend and has completely cut off communication with the rest of her family.

 

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, and it just goes to show to how blind some parents can be to their grown kids' behavior. This mother-in-law still managed to spin the story in such a way that she blamed the Redditor for not doing enough to save his family. Seriously? This all happened at their grandchildren's birthday party by the way, and it's not like the Redditor's wife doesn't know her own kids' birthday. She actively chose not to attend. There's no way to spin this. She's the AH here. Period!

 

Keep scrolling below to see what the ruthless judges of the AITA community had to say about all this. For similar stories, take a look at this post about a guy who tried to cheat with his wife's best friend.

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for telling my MIL that I regret marrying her daughter I (38m) have been married to Lucie (37) together for 18 years and married for 14 years. We have 3 children (Ryan 16, Logan 16 and Emily 13 I recently found out that Lucie had an affair about 14 years ago and Emily isn't mine.
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  • 02
    Font - Things have been strained between me and Lucie ever since obviously leading up to her telling me she was pregnant. She said she is pretty sure that I'm not the father and she wanted to move in with her new boyfriend. The new boyfriend lives the next state over and she wants to start a new life with him so I told her to go if she wanted to.
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  • 03
    Font - This was about a month ago now and we haven't seen her since. However she hasn't told her parents any of this and so I had to explain everything to them. This has caused a few arguments between me and my in laws as they say I didn't try hard enough to stop her going and I will cause problems for the children. This all came to a massive argument at the boys birthday party. During the party they kept saying that Lucie should of been there how I'm an awful father for not getting here there t
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  • 04
    Font - I said to them that I don't care if she's not here, she had the chance and she knows when their birthday is and that I regret ever marrying her. (None of the children heard me say this as the I told the boys they could go out with their friends as their party was ruined anyway and Emily was outside) My MIL left crying and calling me a AH. I g try bought it was all done but now other people are saying I'm a AH for saying that and I should of kept it to myself. In my defense I wouldn't of s
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    Font - DO Tical79 3 hr. ago 3 3 Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] ΝΤΑ You said an adult thing in an adult conversation. You were fine. Their frustration comes from shame. They are ashamed that they raised someone that would miss their kid's birthday, they are ashamed that they raised someone that could abandon their kids, they are are ashamed that you clearly realize she is such a poor mom and partner - that they raised. So in turn, they do the classic move - shoot the messenger.
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  • 06
    Font - Focus on your kids, let the in-laws know that the wife will no longer be a topic of discussion for you, youndont need to waste your time and energy on that deadbeat. 4 4.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Various-Bridge-325. 3 hr. ago Pooperintendant [52] NTA. Your wife had not one but two affairs resulting in two babies, one which you have been told about and the other you have raised as your own. She is the problem and not you. They should stop protecting her and pretending that she has done nothing wrong. You are not the bad guy here, she is. Tell her if they want to continue being part of the kids lives, none of this is up for discussion and they stop blaming you for her shortfalls as
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    Font - AR anonymouswr1ter 4 hr. ago NTA. Your story is so confusing and hard to read. I don't understand why your in-laws are not talking to their daughter to find out info and not you. 313 Reply Share
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    Font - throw-away997799 OP. 4 hr. ago She hasn't contacted anybody since she left. I've told them to get in contact with her not me but they can't get hold of her T 408 Reply
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    Font - Bright Sea_7567. 3 hr. ago NTA but your mil sure is, her daughter cheated on you, and had two affair babies, one that she lied and told you was yours. They need to take their daughter off the pedestal they have her on. Their daughter is the issue. Not you. 270 Reply Share
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  • 11
    Font - Draiel 3 hr. ago How in the Hell are they mad at you, wtaf? Your wife made her choices, she clearly cares more about her new boyfriend than her partner of 18 years and three teenage kids (one of whom isn't even yours, and by the sounds of it you still treat her as if she is - if this is the case, kudos!), what do her parents have to be mad at you for? I don't blame you in the slightest for saying you regret marrying her, I would have too.
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  • 12
    Font - Big NTA, I would wonder what lies your wife has told her family about you to where she can admit to cheating both 15 years ago and very recently, be pregnant with another man's child, completely abandon her family and run away interstate with another man, and your inlaws still somehow thinks you're the bad guy. 210 Reply Share
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  • 13
    Font - throw-away997799 OP. 3 hr. ago I haven't told Emily that she's not mine. I love her no matter what and it's not her fault that I'm not her father. I guess I will have to tell her at some point but she doesn't need to know right now 436 Reply
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  • 14
    Font - RogueRedShirt - 3 hr. ago Wait you still have custody of the child that's probably not yours? You're definitely NTA. 92 Reply Share
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    Font - Motor_Business483. 3 hr. ago Pooperintendant [56] ΝΤΑ Time to get some distance from the AH grandparents for yourself and the kids. And: You are RIGHT: Lucie KNOWS her kid's birthsdays and is CHOSING to abandon her kids.
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    Font - lianavan 3 hr. ago NTA. How were you supposed to stop her? A chastity belt? 52 ♡ Reply Share
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    Font - GeekynGlorious 4 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [24] Since the children didn't hear you, NTA. You aren't responsible for her behavior.
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    Font - Straight-Singer-2912 3 hr. ago Pooperintendant [53] ΝΤΑ They're desperately trying to think that they're daughter "is a good person" and blaming YOU for her not being there.
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  • 19
    Font - Then, when you said you wished you hadn't married her - NOW they have a whipping boy, and it ain't their daughter. The truth is your ex CHOSE not to be there, she ISN'T a good person, and your in-laws will have to face reality.
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  • 20
    Font - Hopefully it will happen. But they cannot blame YOU for their grown daughter's choices. They need to see who she is. Until they do, I'd tell them visits will be short and you will not listen to them telling you that YOU'RE the person at fault.
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